we heard from j’s social worker today after the hearing. the judge decided to hold off on termination until december because the situation at the last foster home was such a fiasco (wish i knew what happened). he ordered visits with the birth mother weekly, but then ruled that they could be done every other week for 3 hours. these visits must be monitored by us. the social worker said that we could use her office or the visitation center that is about 20 minutes away. the birth mom lives about an hour away and the judge does not expect us to go to her. she has our first names only and our home phone number and is supposed to call today to set up a meeting. the ball is now in her court.